He had been working 12 hours a day plus weekends for a while now. Wearing all the hats. He once was an incredible designer, but his business had grown, and now all the admin was sucking the life blood out of him. He hated his business, had no time for himself, and wished he was free. His life was so full, and empty at the same time. He booked a Power Session with me. I threw him a life line.
We live in a world where masculine energies are highly rewarded, especially as entrepreneurs. Goal-setting, being pro-active, ‘getting things done’, pushing yourself up the career ladder; these are all things we hear all the time. It’s been taught to us from a very young age to work hard, have good results, be a winner and a ‘high achiever’. When we start our own business, this is no different. In the long, however, run keep, honouring both the male and female energies inside of you, are essential in keeping yourself feeling balanced, protecting yourself from burnout.
Did you watch Pippi Longstocking as a child? I loved watching these series. So fun, free, creative and imaginative. And didn’t we all want to be like Pippi? The brave, spontaneous and strong-willed girl, who had no fear, and lived all by herself with her horse and her monkey. I definitely did not want to be like goodie-two-shoes Annika, the girl next door, who was scared of everything and just wanted to stay in her comfort zone. Did you? Who did you feel was most like yourself? It’s an interesting metaphor, but one that deserves a little attention. What does it say about you? And if you are actually more and Annika than a Pippi, could you still be brave and be your own boss?
Does anyone need a hug right now? It was Monday morning, I sat at my desk while staring at my screen, and I felt utterly deflated. What’s the point? I thought. Who still wants my creative coaching services when the world is on fire? When there is a war on our doorstep? I was probably not the only one feeling like their business suddenly felt completely meaningless in today’s reality. How can you pick yourself up from feeling this low, and keep going? Should you feel guilty if you do? In this post I want to explore some of the things you may be feeling right now, and how to navigate through all of those emotions as an entrepreneur.
“I want to earn at least 5k a month. I want to generate lots of leads. I want to have a solid strategy for my coaching business for the next 12 months. I want to start a membership. And I want to launch another online marketing course.” Those were the goals I put on my intake-form when I started working with my business coach, six months ago. It was the first ever time I hired a 1-to-1 coach, and the biggest investment in my business so far. I felt I needed my money’s worth out of this, and I was ready to start building that coaching empire. Six months later, I ended up with something entirely different.
Sometimes in life, you start a job – or a business – and it is fantastic at the beginning. You are excited, it all is new, there is so much to learn! But then, one day, something starts to niggle. The spark is gone, cracks begin to appear. You hate to admit it, but your work and you are no longer aligned. You have outgrown each other. And unless the job or business grows with you, there will come a point when it all feels out of sync. That’s when we usually enter a time of turmoil and stress. Today I am exploring a topic that most of us will encounter at least a few times in our lives: when to call it quits.
This blog post is a very personal one. Today was a tough day. I am on day 13 after getting sick with Covid, and it has worn me out. I usually get sick with flu or colds at least once a year, so I know the feeling, but this virus is a beast. At least, it was for me. And perhaps, in a strange way, it is just what I need, spiritually, and where I am in life right now. Today’s blog post is about acceptance, patience, surrendering, and trust in the process. Sitting with the pain, and working through it. Ouch. As an Enneagram type 7 and manifesting generator (Human Design), these things are hell, but unfortunately things I can no longer ignore. I have been fighting a grizzly bear for a very long time now, but the fight is over. This is my story, and that of many other strong women.
A lot of my clients are women in their forties and fifties, sometimes a little younger, who have just left their job, or are planning to leave it soon. They dedicated most of their working life to corporate jobs and careers they chose a long time ago. Choices due to either parental expectations, or, mainly, financial security. Most of them left their inner creative spirit behind in childhood and adolescence. The happy child who was always drawing, the teenager who wrote deep poetry, the kid who loved spending hours making and crafting things. It’s only years later, when they can no longer ignore their inner voice and yearning, that they feel ready to face what has always been waiting inside them. And that can be scary.
Each January we are told to become a better version of ourselves this year, with overly ambitious resolutions and the obligatory positive attitude. New year, new you! Oh, the pressure. Let’s just ease into 2022, shall we? I mean… we are entering the third year of craziness and ongoing measures surrounding a pandemic. I think it is safe to say we are all a little apprehensive of whatever is coming next. Right? Here are some of the things I recommend you do instead of setting yourself goals that are only making the stress levels go up.
“Stop lying to yourself, Nina!”, my coach told me on our weekly call. I was a bit taken aback by her comment, as it hit a nerve. I usually feel quite confident and in control, and I am not often critisised like that. But I knew exactly what she meant, and I deserved it. I was lying to myself, and I needed to start speaking my truth. What my coach was saying to me, was this:”Show me more of the real you, not the person who you think you should be.” And even though this was something I knew already, and in fact, is something I teach my own clients, I knew I was guilty of hiding myself behind a veneer of something I believed my audience wanted to hear and see. I always thought I was a pretty confident human being. What was